Nov 14 2008
Your Spouse Is Not A Project
Have you seen families where the wife considers the husband her project to work on? I have. She had obviously lowered her standards when marrying him, and now she is busy molding and shaping him into the man she wants. She wants him to dress differently, be interested in certain things, have certain hobbies and friends, change certain habits, etc.
Neither spouse is happy in such a marriage. The wife is frustrated because the “project” has made little or no progress after all these years, and the husband lives under constant pressure, always reminded that he is not good enough.
Ladies, if the guy you are dating is not what you want in a husband, do not marry him. Do not hope to change him in the future to meet your requirements. Save yourself – and him – years of struggle and disappointment.
One Response to “Your Spouse Is Not A Project”
Leave a Reply
You must be logged in to post a comment.
Not A Member? Register for Free!
Great post.
Unfortunately, we are programmed from an early age that we can “mold” a man into what we need. It doesn’t work and only builds resentment on both sides